Shantel Isn’t Loving Our New Home

We moved into our new home in beautiful Chandler Arizona two and a half weeks ago. Our new home is 14.2 miles away from our other home in beautiful Ahwatukee. Now, we have the best of two beautiful cities within minutes from our home. We are located in far east Chandler, on Chandler Blvd and Cooper. Cooper is just one mile west of Gilbert Road. I am excited and looking forward to exploring not only historical old town Chandler, but also the town of Gilbert. I love the fact that there isn’t a McDonald’s or Circle K on every street corner. And, that there are actually sections around our home where there are just pastures where horses roam and people actually grow things. Shantel, on the other hand just doesn’t “see” the beauty of any of that. We actually have to drive around looking for some of her favorite places like Bashas’s for her donuts on Sunday etc. She told me it feels like we live in the middle of a field with nothing around us for miles…she asked why anyone would want to live “way out here”? Keep in mind we are only a short fifteen minutes on the freeway from our other house in Ahwatukee.

I think our new home is beautiful. It is about the same size as our other home, but because it has vaulted ceilings throughout the living room, dinning area, family room, master bedroom and kitchen, the house appears much larger than it really is. Also, there is much more open space in this home because the builders made better use of the space by not having a long hallway like our other house had. The master bedroom is on one side of the house and the other two bedrooms are separated only by a bathroom in a very short hall off the family room. The kitchen and family room is one large open space. Some of the walls don’t go all the way up to the ceiling, and there are plant shelves in the living room and dining area as well as low hung cabinets in the kitchen all which add to the spacious feeling of our new home.  Bill says he really likes this house (he never says he loves houses, I say that’s a man thing, but that’s just me) and I absolutely LOVE this house. Shantel, on the other hand…not so much for a variety of reasons.

Shantel is very much a creature of habit. She adapts to change slowly, very slowly, over time, but she really doesn’t like change. We lived in our other home for almost nine years and we lived in the community of Ahwatukee all of Shantel’s life. Shantel says she misses Ahwatukee and our other home. What I see as beautiful open spaces in this house, she finds difficult to find her way around in because all her landmarks are gone. Sometimes she gets turned around trying to get from her room to the kitchen because the space is so open. What I see as a newer, more modern home because this home is half the age of our other home, she finds unfamiliar and says it will never feel like home to her.

This home has a gas range. I have always wanted a gas range like I see on all the food channel shows. I am loving cooking on my new gas range. Shantel says now it will be difficult for her to know how to adjust the flame and she will have to always worry she is going to get her hair or clothes set on fire!

We had to find a new church to attend. We decided on St. Anne’s in Gilbert. A beautiful church that also has a Perpetual Adoration  Chapel just like our other church had which makes me very happy. The church community has been very warm and welcoming to Bill and I. I say Bill and I because Shantel has decided she isn’t going to attend church with us any more because she says it just won’t feel like home. That, of course, breaks my heart…but she is over eighteen, and able to make her own choices now, even if I don’t agree with them. So Bill and I are establishing ourselves in our new church without Shantel. Hopefully, one day she will change her mind and give our new church a try…hopefully. But if she doesn’t I will simply accept that as her choice.

I haven’t heard Shantel say she like sanything about our home, community, church, etc. since we moved here. It surprised me because she is usually very easy-going and willing to go along with whatever we wanted to do. Perhaps this change was just too much for her, I don’t know. But I believe she is going to have a very difficult time with the rest of her life if she lets this move throw her off-balance so much.

Don’t get me wrong, I miss Ahwatukee too, but Bill and I made the decision to move here because our home, that we had paid in full, had an HOA that started skyrocketing over the past three years. In addition to raising the HOA fees, they weren’t taking care of the common areas and other things that were their responsibility. So, we decided to move and are saving over $2,000.00 a year in HOA fees. I can do a lot on $2,000.00 a year! We looked for a home in Ahwatukee, Tempe, and areas closer to our other home, but everything was a short sale or foreclosure and we didn’t want to mess with any of that. Plus, our other home sold in two days and we only had thirty days to find a home and move to avoid moving all our things twice.

One day shortly after we moved into our new home, Shantel started complaining about everything in the house…so I told her she had the same choice as we gave all our kids when they began not liking house rules, decisions we made etc…she said “what’s that”? I said “you can choose to leave! I haven’t heard her complain as much lately, and am hoping perhaps she might be starting to make the adjustment…or not…Stay tuned!

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. gotham girl
    Apr 22, 2012 @ 18:47:44

    I had this feeling…and you confirmed it! But, like you said…we all have choices! Good lessons here! xoxo mas!

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  2. Megs
    Apr 28, 2012 @ 13:14:51

    I think this is a good change for her. It is important for her to adapt into new settings. Change makes you stronger. “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” Zeale Donald Walsch. One of my favorite qoutes! xoxo

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