Patience!

I’ve heard it said “don’t ever pray for patience, because God will send many trying challenges your way so you learn patience”.

I must have thought that said PRAY for patience. That, and I must be a really slow learner because I can tell you patience has never been one of my strong points. Combine that with the fact that I am a very left brained person, and one might just have the perfect recipe for disaster. Why, because left brained people must have plans and everything must go according to the plan. When things don’t go according to the plan it can cause one to become overly stressed and lose their patience and that is never a good thing.

One might think raising a blind child would definitely be a good way to acquire an abundance of patience. I don’t know if that’s true for me or if I simply learned to change my plan on the fly when road bumps came along. Being able to change the plan is great for me because  most of the time my plans include a timeline for the plan to happen. So for example, when Shantel needs more time to get things done, in order to not lose my patience with her, I adjust my plan to accommodate her, but I still have a plan to satisfy my left brain issues. Sometimes I adjust my plan so many times it no longer even resembles the original plan, but hey, it’s still a plan right?

One thing that drives me crazy and can cause me to lose my patience is being late. I think it is just as easy to be five minutes early as five minutes late. You just have to have a plan and stick to it. So why is that so difficult for some people? When I pose that question to Shantel, she just laughs and says “Oh mom, you just worry too much”. So, when Shantel, asks me to take her somewhere. I will always ask her the important questions like where are we going? What time do you need to be there? And so on…. Then, I will give her the exact time she needs to be in the car so we can leave to arrive at her destination on time. Why do I need to go through all that with my soon to be nineteen year old daughter you ask? Well, Shantel has taken up procrastination like it’s her new hobby. She will put off doing things until the very last-minute. Of course, that drives me up the wall and down the other side, and can cause me to lose my patience with her, which is never a good thing because then I will feel guilty, and we all know what that can cause…See previous post on Guilt!

I wish with all my heart I could be as laid back as Shantel is about things. She just has the opinion that if things get done they do and if they don’t they just don’t. That concept doesn’t even compute in my left brain. So if even raising a blind child hasn’t helped me acquire any more patience, I’ll just be happy knowing I can adjust my plans on the fly!…:)

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Gotham Girl
    Jun 04, 2012 @ 14:28:15

    Oh how I would’ve loved to had the attitude that if things get done they do and if they don’t, they just don’t earlier in life! I’m a doer, so like you…always a plan. But I have to say as I’ve gotten older and retired, I find myself flying by the seat of my pants and I love it! I so admire the wisdom that you have accumulated on this journey! Love you MORE!!!

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    • beyondcinderella
      Jun 04, 2012 @ 20:32:58

      Yes, frissy, I would love to have that attitude even now, but if I did, nothing would ever get done around here for sure:) But just wait till I get my “wings”… someday!

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