Expensive Lesson

My daughter, Shantel, has a beautiful purse that she carries with her everywhere, including when we go hiking.


However, she has taken to carrying her wallet in the front pocket of her pants, even when her beautiful purse is hanging on her arm.

Now, keep in mind, the front pockets of her jeans are very shallow and usually more than half of her wallet would be sticking out like this. By the way, this is a new wallet I just bought for her, read on to find out why. 🙂


I’ve told Shantel repeatedly to put her wallet in her purse, but she refused. I told her repeatedly that one day she was going to lose her wallet, and everything in it, but still she refused. Hey, who am I to tell my adult daughter what to do…I’m just mom… 🙂

Well, well, well… guess what happened yesterday when I took her to Wal-Mart? Yep, Shantel lost her wallet that had $200.oo cash in it along with her debit card, her state issued photo ID and her college photo ID cards.

As we were standing in line to make her purchase, suddenly Shantel says “mom, I think I lost my wallet”. I said when did you last remember having it? She said I think I just felt it drop and hit my foot as we were standing here in line… Now, all of a sudden, her crisis, has become my emergency!!! I immediately began looking all around the floor area to see if I could see the wallet anywhere. No luck. I got down on my hands and knees (in front of a store full of Wal-Mart shoppers) and crawled all around looking under display racks to see if perhaps the wallet bounced under a display rack when it hit the floor. No luck.  I found a Wal-Mart worker who was standing near by and asked her to help me look. No luck. I took Shantel sighted guide to back trace our steps and see if the wallet was anywhere we had been in… No luck. I took Shantel to Customer Service and stood in a long line there to see if by chance a kind soul found the wallet and turned it in… No luck. I took Shantel back out to the parking lot and all the way back to the car to see if perhaps the wallet dropped in the parking lot or if perhaps it fell out of her pocket while she was still in the car… No luck.

By this time Shantel is starting to get really upset and I could tell she wanted to cry. I was beyond upset with her but kept my thoughts to  myself knowing nothing I could say to her was going to make any more of an impression than what I knew she had to be thinking to herself…

Finally after looking everywhere I could think of, I told Shantel that unfortunately, the wallet is gone, and I don’t hold much hope that anyone is going to turn it in so she would need to call the bank immediately and cancel her debit card before anyone had a chance to use it. I also suggested she call Wal-Mart and ask again if anyone turned in her wallet and ask if she could leave her phone number so if by chance someone does turn he wallet in Wal-Mart will have a number to contact her.

On the way home, Shantel asked me if I would take her to the bank in the morning to get another debit card and to the MVD to get another state issued Id card and to the college to get another student ID card…I told her I would do all of that if she could tell me what she learned from this experience. Shantel tearfully said “not to ever carry my wallet in my pocket but to put it in my purse and keep my purse closed..” That said, guess where I spent my day today? Yep, MVD for 2 hrs, bank for 45 minutes, and we still have to make an appointment at the college for the student Id which will most likely be at least another three hours including the round trip drive time to get there…

In addition, since when Shantel lost her wallet, she also lost all her cash, so she asked me if I would take her to Game Stop because they will buy back your old equipment like Ipods, tablets, etc. Shantel had two Ipods that she sold for about $70.00 which made her day at least a little bit brighter. She also wanted me to take her to a plasma blood bank to see if she could sell some plasma but I drew the line at that and told her if she did that she would need to use dial-a-ride and I didn’t even want to know about it…I told her she didn’t need money that bad and that she just needed to suck it up and chalk it up as an expensive lesion learned!

I thought both Shantel and I managed this whole ordeal the best we could under the stressful circumstances.  I didn’t say “I told you so” but I did make it clear that, as an adult now, if she ever carried her wallet in her pocket again, and lost it, her crisis would NOT become my emergency, and Shantel agreed, and we hugged and moved on…

Stay Tuned!

4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. katsbynp
    Jul 20, 2013 @ 01:30:23

    Poor Shantel. I have been in her shoes of learning a lesson the hard way. I think her selling her IPods show she did learn a valuable lesson.

    I think you did a trememdous job handling the situation. I know how hard it is not to say ” I told you so.” I know I have been through situations with my 2 kids and think it says more when we say nothing.

    Thanks for sharing


  2. gotham girl
    Jul 21, 2013 @ 13:49:52

    What a lesson for her! You did an amazing job handling your emotions as well! So love you! xo


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