Just Between Friends

Like most Monday and Wednesday afternoons, after classes, yesterday our daughter, Shantel, was out with her best friend, Jaz. These two girls have been best friends for the past four years. They go everywhere and do everything together. Jaz also tutor’s Shantel at least twice a week, helping her with all her math and/or science related courses. Jaz and Shantel will stay up half the night on the phone studying for a test, or Jaz will just help Shantel understand course related things that are extremely visual in content. So, needless to say, they have a special bond that is reserved for special friends… And, because they are young… they sometimes have a special language they share just between them…

Yesterday, while Jaz and Shantel were out and about having lunch, going to Sally’s Beauty Supply to get their beauty products, then Wal-Mart for whatever they need to pick up there… Jaz was explaining something to Shantel about items in the store and apparently Shantel kept asking her something over and over pretending she didn’t understand… Finally, Jaz caught on to what Shantel was doing and said in a joking manner ” Oh, go to hell Shantel…” Shantel, being blind, but with a quick wit… said “OK, where is it and how do I get there…?” Well, another customer who was standing nearby spoke up to Jaz and said “that is no way to speak to a person with a disability.” Jaz smiled and said “oh, we’re best friends.” Jaz told Shantel the customer shook her head and said “still, you should be ashamed of yourself for talking to people like them like that..” Then that customer just walked off.

I asked Shantel what she and Jaz thought about the incident. Shantel said they just laughed and said “everyone our age says things like that to each other so why is it different just because I’m disabled, or like the customer put it, I’m one of those “people like that?”

Today when I was taking Shantel to school she told me she was still laughing about what the customer in Wal-Mart said. I’m glad Shantel and Jaz have that special bond of friendship. They are young and they are not hurting anyone…, and to be honest, I love the special bond I have with special friends that allows me to relax, and be myself, even saying little things that only real friends can say to each other… Albeit, I would never say anything intentionally to hurt anyone, ever!!

So what do you think? Were the girls just being young girls, and do you have a special bond, with a special friend, where you can just relax and kind of say little things from time to time knowing they won’t be taken seriously? I mean personally, I would not tell one of my friends to “go to hell.” even as a joke… but I’m a bit older…. However I do have special friends that I have a special bond with and we do sometimes speak a language that is reserved for girlfriends only…

As always, I welcome your thoughts and comments…

Stay Tuned!

8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Bill
    Mar 21, 2014 @ 00:35:19

    The girls were just being girls, I believe the customer in her words was being a bigot, just saying!



    • beyondcinderella
      Mar 21, 2014 @ 02:09:01

      Hearing the way Shantel explained the situation to you and I Bill I have to agree. The girls are young, and given how I hear other people their age talking to each other… if that is as bad as their communication gets when they talk to each other…., I think they are all good… XoXo


  2. katsbynp
    Mar 21, 2014 @ 01:50:09

    I agree that the girls were fine. Granted we may not have used those exact words but they were not phased by it. Really I also took more offense to the “people like that” comment. Thanks for sharing.


    • beyondcinderella
      Mar 21, 2014 @ 02:14:20

      I so agree Kathy… they are both just in their early 20’s and both still live at home where they are held to standards regarding how they speak in the house…so they are just trying to spread their wings without hurting anyone… thanks for you comments and continued support! XoXo


  3. gotham girl
    Mar 21, 2014 @ 15:01:52

    Girls being girls! I love they fact they can play like that! I’m sure the other person was just envious of their relationship, but it still amazes me how people are so uncomfortable around anyone with a handicap. xoxo More!


  4. John and Myrna
    Mar 21, 2014 @ 18:33:18

    Tell you what! I just love the come back from Shantel! She is a hoot. I agree with you. I wouldn’t say that to my best friend or anyone. I guess a different time?


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