Shantel’s Moving Out Update

The past few weeks have just gone by in a blur. With Shantel taking possession of her apartment on May 5th, we have been very, very, busy trying to make sure everything is in order for the big day. I’ve spent almost every waking minute helping Shantel pick out her furniture and shop for things she will need for her new apartment home. Things like, air tight canisters, no sharp edges can opener, shower curtain and hooks etc… We are also sorting through pots/pans, silver ware, dishes, cups etc. that she can have from our home to help save some money.

The day after Shantel picked out her new queen size bed, we noticed we gave the wrong direction (west, instead of east) in her address for the bed to be delivered. So, after I dropped Shantel off at school, I went back to the store and had the address corrected. The lady that sold us the bed set was not there, but the man who was working there that day was very nice and helpful. Since the store had just opened, I was the only customer there and as he was correcting the address information in the computer, he asked me how my day was going….I started chatting it up with him about Shantel graduating from college in May with two degrees and moving into her very first apartment. He said he could see I was very proud of her. I went on to tell him more about the journey of our lives. How Shantel became our daughter, how she lost her sight, how she is an A/B student in college.. and how badly she wants to get a job. I told him I have never seen anyone want to work more than she does. I explained that she has had some interviews, but with no work experience, and with her vision impairment, no one seems willing to give her a chance to have her first job. I told him that it is so frustrating to think that Shantel has earned two degrees and yet some people don’t even think she could answer their business phone… He listened with intent and I could see in his eyes that he was thinking of something as I spoke. He continued to ask me questions about how she gets around, how she uses technology etc. I had no idea what he was getting at so I went on and on telling him all about her smart phone and how she can do all her research papers, print them out for her instructors etc. I said she is very good at using her smart phone and/or computer and all it took for her to be able to access this technology was a voice over/screen reader application. Then this man said something that shocked me… he said he owned his own business, a courier service in Phoenix. His company picks up and delivers court documents and other important papers etc. within the Phoenix area. He said he just recently started this company which is why he works at the furniture store right now, but he said Shantel sounds like someone he would be proud to have on his team. He said he thought she would be an asset to his company and wanted to meet her. I said I would be picking her up from school in about 30 minutes and would bring her by to meet him. He gave me his business card for his company in Phoenix and said in a month or so he would be ready to hire a dispatcher/customer service person for his company and Shantel sounds like she could fit that bill… OMG, I couldn’t believe what I was hearing…

I left the store and went to pick Shantel up from school. I was so excited to tell her about my encounter with the man at the furniture store and Shantel was just as excited to go meet him. When we got back to the furniture store and walked in the man came over to Shantel and shook her hand and told her how I had told him all about her and how badly she wants a job. He reiterated to her what he said to me about how proud he would be to have her on his team and what a true asset she would be to his company. He told her he gave me his business card and asked her to send him her contact information and a resume just showing her school information and any volunteer job experience she might have… He said it might take a few weeks or month but to not get discouraged as he continues to get his company ready for the dispatcher/customer service position he wants to offer to Shantel… He shook her hand again and even asked her to follow-up with him if she doesn’t hear back from him within a few weeks. Of course we ran right home and forwarded Shantel’s resume and cover letter directly to him via email… I will provide an update on the outcome of this later.

The next big thing, or at least it’s a big thing to me, is I got my very first smart phone Friday.

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Yes in deed I did.. I never needed a smart phone before, but now, with Shantel moving out, she wanted me to be able to face time with her so I can see her and let her know for example, if her make-up is smudged in the morning before she leaves for the day, or if she thinks something is wrong in her apartment, she can call me and point her phone to what she thinks might be a problem and I can see if she needs hands on help or if I can just help her over the phone… it makes me feel better knowing I will be able to actually see Shantel when she calls.

In addition to all the things we are doing to make sure Shantel has everything she needs for her first apartment, we are also planning a little “send off B-B-Q/party” with family/friends to help us wish Shantel well as she takes this next step in her life journey.

I can say with all honesty, this has been the most bitter-sweet experience of my life… That is why I haven’t even been able to update my blog lately… I just needed time to process all this, and I’m still processing it… Everyday since Shantel said she was ready to move out on her own has been a unique experience for us all. Speaking only for myself here, I’m so proud she wants/trusts me to help her pick out her furniture (I promised no cowgirl stuff…) and along the way, together we have laughed… and privately I cried, we laughed some more, and  privately I cried some more… You get the picture. It’s not that I don’t know that Shantel will be alright, it’s not that I don’t know I will still see her, and I know for sure I will be fine once it’s a done deal… it’s just DAM, I’m going to miss that girl’s daily presence in our home…

However, I just asked my husband, Bill/Bro today as we were making breakfast together after Mass… “so, are you ready for it to be just you and me around here again…?” He smiled and said, “me and you and a dog named blue..” That was a little inside song/joke we always shared whenever one of our other children left home… With five children between us, Bill and I are not new to having children leave home… While it was always bitter-sweet, we always knew eventually it would come back to just us, full circle, and that’s just the way it should be? Right?

Stay Tuned!

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10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. katsbynp
    Apr 13, 2014 @ 23:29:56

    It is wonderful to hear about the potential job offer. It was fortunate the gentleman was there at the store that morning.
    I know how bittersweet the move must be. I know even though I was happy Mike(he is the youngest) moved out I was happy to have the house to myself but I still missed many things.
    Thanks for sharing another great post. I look forward to the updates

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    • beyondcinderella
      Apr 14, 2014 @ 00:56:37

      We are excited and hopeful for Shantel. She has her whole life before her and we know she will do well no matter what life path she takes.. Thanks for your continued support and comments.

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  2. Bill
    Apr 13, 2014 @ 23:52:38

    I hope that everything works out fine for Shantel with her apartment and a job with the currier company. It just may mean that we need not to get anymore dogs name blue.

    Love Bill, Papa

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  3. gotham girl
    Apr 14, 2014 @ 02:27:44

    So love getting this update. I’ve felt so out of the loop with all that has been going on here in my life. What a great opportunity and I’ll continue to send positive vibes out west in hopes this job really does pan out. Thinking of all of you so so often. Big hugs coming your way…love you.

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  4. John and Myrna
    Apr 14, 2014 @ 16:38:17

    The Good Lord works in the way that just mystifies us don’t He or She ? I’m happy for her. She is such a go getter anyway! Proud to call her our niece! We wish her well and it sounds like the company she will be working for is a good one. Take care and love to all, JB.

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  5. Ellen Kaufman
    Apr 14, 2014 @ 21:57:46

    It is so wonderful to hear the good news about Shantel’s and your adventures. God is always there for you and showers you with Blessings to those who deserves them and I cannot think of no more deserving then Shantel and her family.
    You will enjoy your I phone …I for one love FaceTime so I can see my family and grand kids and you will wonder how you got along without it.
    Best luck to Shantel and her new place. You guys can have sleepovers and all kinds of fun parties and things.. It will become sweeter than bitter after awhile. You’ll see!!!💜🍷🍕

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    • beyondcinderella
      Apr 14, 2014 @ 22:08:36

      Thank you Aunt Ellen for your comments and continued support. I know it will all be fine once Shantel is safely in her new apartment home. Then we will for sure have many opportunities to be together again as family… For me, right now, it’s just getting through the next few weeks until she actually moves… after that is a done deal…, I will be just fine… Actually, both Bill and I are looking forward to being alone again…. it just takes time to adjust, especially this time… Love and hugs to all. xoxo

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