beyond cinderella

I went to visit my mother at the Care Center on Saturday. It was the first time I visited her since I returned from my trip to Coronado Island last week. When I arrived at the Care Center, mom was in the activity room playing bingo.

Instead of taking mom her usual treat, a McDonald’s Frappe, I bought a pack of chocolate chunk cookies at Costco and gave them to her. She was very excited about all the cookies. However, because my mother has been losing so much weight, I asked her to promise me she would eat her lunch before she ate any cookies…, wishful thinking on my part, but at least I try to get her to eat her meals…

We left the cookies in mom’s room and I pushed her to the dining room for lunch. The choices on the menu were Hawaiian pork or chicken quesadillas. Mom wasn’t excited about either choice, but I convinced her (or so I thought) that she liked chicken quesadillas…

However, when mom’s chicken quesadillas arrived, mom asked me “how do I eat these?” I cut them into small triangles and put a little sour cream and salsa on each and told her to eat them like little sandwiches. She took one or two bites then said she didn’t like it. I asked her to try some of her Spanish rice. She took one tiny bite of that and said she didn’t like that either.

I said “mom you always liked chicken quesadillas and Spanish rice, I made them for you when you lived with me and you said you loved them.” She said “well, I don’t like them now.”  Frustrated, I said “what do you like mom?” Of course, she said “I like cookies…”

So, cookies it was…

To keep myself calm and not cause undue stress…. knowing my mother is 86 years of age, and in declining health, my motto with my mother now is “if I can’t convince her otherwise… just give in!!!” At this point, I’m all about whatever makes her happy…  🙂

Stay Tuned!