I went to visit my mother at the Care Center on Saturday. It was the first time I visited her since I returned from my trip to Coronado Island last week. When I arrived at the Care Center, mom was in the activity room playing bingo.
Instead of taking mom her usual treat, a McDonald’s Frappe, I bought a pack of chocolate chunk cookies at Costco and gave them to her. She was very excited about all the cookies. However, because my mother has been losing so much weight, I asked her to promise me she would eat her lunch before she ate any cookies…, wishful thinking on my part, but at least I try to get her to eat her meals…
We left the cookies in mom’s room and I pushed her to the dining room for lunch. The choices on the menu were Hawaiian pork or chicken quesadillas. Mom wasn’t excited about either choice, but I convinced her (or so I thought) that she liked chicken quesadillas…
However, when mom’s chicken quesadillas arrived, mom asked me “how do I eat these?” I cut them into small triangles and put a little sour cream and salsa on each and told her to eat them like little sandwiches. She took one or two bites then said she didn’t like it. I asked her to try some of her Spanish rice. She took one tiny bite of that and said she didn’t like that either.
I said “mom you always liked chicken quesadillas and Spanish rice, I made them for you when you lived with me and you said you loved them.” She said “well, I don’t like them now.” Frustrated, I said “what do you like mom?” Of course, she said “I like cookies…”
So, cookies it was…
To keep myself calm and not cause undue stress…. knowing my mother is 86 years of age, and in declining health, my motto with my mother now is “if I can’t convince her otherwise… just give in!!!” At this point, I’m all about whatever makes her happy… 🙂
Stay Tuned!
Jul 22, 2014 @ 22:48:19
So agree!! I mean really…who wouldn’t want cookies over food and if you’ve lived for 86 years then by all means! xoxo
Jul 23, 2014 @ 00:54:41
Thank you frissy for your understanding and continued support. XoXo
Jul 23, 2014 @ 00:38:09
Save all treats Out in car or at Nurses Station until after lunch , bring a little non-eatable surprise and then after lunch give her the cookies or frappe. At this stage of her life she is just like my 5 year old Grandaughter of mine, who would never eat her lunch if I had those delicious chocolate chips in front of her. I know how hard it is to resist myself those delicious treats. LOL. Love you❤️
Jul 23, 2014 @ 00:53:56
As hard as it is to hear and accept Aunt Ellen, mom doesn’t eat her meals now regardless if someone brings her treats or not… that is why she has lost so much weight… At this point I would rather she ate cookies than nothing at all.. Thanks for your continued support… xoxo
Jul 23, 2014 @ 01:07:39
I agree that sometimes it is best for all just to give in and try another day. Cookies aren’t the worst thing in the world and at 86 is it makes her happy so be it. You are a very loving caring daughter. Love you
Jul 23, 2014 @ 01:45:37
Thank you Kathy for your continued love and support… Counting the days until you come to my house… counting the days. 🙂