Makes Me Wonder

Our daughter, Shantel, lives in a one bedroom apartment on the ground floor of her apartment building. Just outside her apartment door is the parking lot and just on the other side of the parking lot are the big trash bins where residents are to put their trash. Because of where the trash bins are located, it is not safe for Shantel to walk her own trash to the trash bins. Not only is it difficult for her to carry her trash bags while trying to manage her long cane, the parking lot is very busy with cars coming and going in that parking lot as that parking lot strip is the only way in and out of the apartment complex. Seeing how dangerous the parking lot could be for Shantel, Bill and I told her to just put her trash out on her patio and one of us would take it over to the trash bins for her when we come over. One of us are usually there at least twice a week. In addition, we spoke to the lady in the rental office about the situation and she said she would also ask maintenance  to pick up Shantel’s trash if they see it on the patio when they are out and about.

When Shantel first moved into her apartment, we met the elderly lady that lives right next door to Shantel with her two adult daughters. Bill and I were helping Shantel get moved in, and the elderly lady came out of her apartment with her laundry basket full of clothes and was walking with a walking cane on her way to the laundry room. Bill stopped what he was doing and offered to carry her basket of clothes to the laundry room.

A few days later, I was back over at Shantel’s apartment to take her to get some things she needed for her new place. I noticed there was no trash on her patio and I just assumed the maintenance men picked it up. However, just as Shantel was locking her door and we were going to leave, the elderly neighbor lady opened her door and said she and her daughter picked up Shantel’s trash and carried it over to the trash bins. She said she knows Shantel is blind and she didn’t mind doing anything to help her out. She asked me all about how Shantel lost her sight, how she manages to live alone etc. I explained how Shantel lost her sight etc. then I thanked her and told her of the arrangement we made with the office and let her know that either my husband or I would be over at least twice a week to see about the trash as well. She said “oh, don’t worry about it, my daughters and I don’t mind helping her out…” I thanked her again and told her how much it means to Bill and I to know Shantel has good neighbors. That was in May of this year.

Today, when I arrived at Shantel’s apartment to take her to buy her groceries, I noticed a note taped to Shantel’s door. I pulled the note off and read it. It read something like this: My daughters and I have been picking up your trash X2 on Friday and Sunday of this week because we don’t want roaches or the cats to tear the bags open and pull out all the trash. We don’t mind because we believe God wants us to help others, but you need to at least say thank you. Signed your neighbor woman.

I was disappointed by the note. First of all because they know Shantel is blind so what good is a hand written note going to do for her?, And, Shantel has no way of knowing who picked up the trash because she can’t see. She didn’t even know the trash had been picked up at all. But what bothered me even more was why would anyone say they are doing what God wants them to do to help others, then tape a note to a door asking for a thank-you? That to me, isn’t doing God’s work for the sake of pleasing God, it makes me wonder if it’s not more like pleasing self…?

When I read the note to Shantel, she said she had no idea that lady took her trash to the trash bins. But she would let her know when she runs into her again that she really appreciates the help. She said she would bake her a batch of brownies as a thank-you. I said I thought that might be a nice idea… I also wrote a note back to the woman and said ” Many people help Shantel in many ways, however, Shantel is not always aware of who is picking up her trash. Please know that we sincerely appreciate anything anyone does to help Shantel. Thank you, and know your heavenly rewards will be great! Signed Shantel’s parents and Shantel.

Shaking my head…

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8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Ellen Kaufman
    Sep 10, 2014 @ 22:40:19

    What a way to be neighborly…..it takes all kinds! You guys are so sweet! I don’t know how people can be like that!
    Oh well! ❤️😁

    Reply

    • beyondcinderella
      Sep 11, 2014 @ 00:02:19

      Thank you Aunt Ellen. Yes, this was a real eye opener for us as to how people say one thing and really mean another… Love You, and thanks for your continued comments and support.

      Reply

  2. katsbynp
    Sep 11, 2014 @ 02:41:26

    All I can say is Wow! I always want to tell people like that please don’t help if you can’t do it out of the goodness of your heart. You and Shantel certainly handeled it well. Hopefully they will gain some understanding. Love you

    Reply

    • beyondcinderella
      Sep 11, 2014 @ 12:30:29

      I feel the same way Kathy. If people don’t want to help that is fine but don’t say you are helping in the name of God then ask for a thank-you from someone that doesn’t even know you did anything for them in the first place… Love you!

      Reply

  3. gotham girl
    Sep 11, 2014 @ 15:41:17

    People…there are so many kinds out there!! I do think though at times people are just ignorant about disabilities… No excuse though. Love u!

    Reply

    • beyondcinderella
      Sep 11, 2014 @ 17:03:40

      Yes, I agree Frissy, there are many, many, people that are just plain ignorant about disabilities. The worst ones are the ones that think they know all about people with disabilities but in reality… they have no clue. Those people can actually cause more harm than good… Love you!

      Reply

  4. gotham girl
    Sep 11, 2014 @ 15:41:57

    Oh…also meant to say…perfect title! It always makes us wonder!

    Reply

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