A Nice Little Break

I haven’t posted on my blog for over two weeks. Not because I didn’t have anything to say, or that there was nothing going on in my world to write about (there is ALWAYS something going on in my world to write about…), it’s just that the things that have been going on lately have created a desire in me to just take some time to pause and reflect, which is what I have been doing. I couldn’t find the words to express how I really feel about some of the events taking place, but after a little break, I feel more compelled to share…

Because my mother lives in a 24/7 skilled nursing Care Center, I spend a lot of my time there visiting her and seeing after the care she gets. As a result, I have come to know many of the other residents that live there as well. Over the past six years, I have made friends with many, many residents at the Care Center. Some have passed on and new friends took their place. Some of the residents I meet don’t have anyone to come and visit them. That always makes me sad, so when I’m there I try to make a point to spend some time with those special people…

You might remember me writing about David in one of my previous posts. David was in a car accident and lost one of his legs… he is going to surgery this week and the doctors told him the surgery is very risky because David has a terminal illness and many other medical issues… I’m very worried about him making it through that surgery, but David told me he isn’t worried at all. He said he already outlived the time the doctors gave him so if he makes it he will be living on more “borrowed time” and if he doesn’t, he is ready to go… What an inspiration David is to me!

Then there is my mother’s tablemate, Joan. I’ve written many times about the up and down relationship between my mother and Joan. They like each other, but they would fuss and fight at the drop of a hat… Joan’s condition took a big turn for the worse. She is now confined to her bed, is on Hospice, and is not responding very well at all. I’ve. missed seeing Joan sitting across from my mother in the dinning room, and when I go to her room to look in on her she doesn’t know who I am. It’s so sad. I’m praying for you Joan…

I met with my mother’s doctor last Thursday when I was visiting my mother. The doctor asked to speak to me alone and wanted to know my thoughts on how my mother is doing. I told the doctor that I have seen a big decline in my mother over the past six months. She struggles more to find her words, her attention span has declined further, she gets confused about her surrounding and what is going on around her much more frequently etc. The doctor said she agreed with everything I described and said we could expect all of these things to continue to decline as my mother’s dementia and Parkinson’s continues to progress. It’s very hard to watch anyone go through that. I’ve seen some family and friends stop going to visit their loved ones when these things happen to them, especially when the loved one doesn’t recognize you anymore… However, I just keep reminding myself of an article I read a long time ago about caring for a family member or friend as their health declines… it said when that happens to keep in mind that they may not recognize you, but you will still recognize them.. So very true! Here is a perfect example of that..

Meet Bob. Bob is the man in the tan shirt pushing his sister in her wheelchair.

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Bob is not a resident of the Care Center, but he comes everyday and spends the entire day visiting his sister who has multiple medical issues and doesn’t recognize Bob at all… In fact, she doesn’t even speak to anyone at all… That doesn’t stop Bob. Everyday he arrives at the Care Center and sits with his sister reading her books, or he brings a headset with classical and ballroom music programmed on it for his sister to listen to. He said it was always her favorite music… Bob isn’t well himself. He also has Parkinson’s and has difficulty walking. In fact, he walks with a cane when he isn’t pushing his sister’s wheelchair, but he is devoted to his sister and says if not for him coming to see about her, no one would… BTW, Bob told me his sister has a son that lives in Phoenix… He said her son is a Preacher… yet he never comes to visit his own mother… now how sad is that…?

With all the sadness around the Care Center everyday for the past couple of weeks… I was happy to have a three-day weekend with my husband, Bill. He had another rare opportunity to have a Friday off and we made good use of every minute of our time together.

We went to a “Rock The Block” street fair in historical downtown Chandler on Saturday. There was something there for everyone. Lots of rides for the kids…

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Booths of every kind set up with vendors selling everything you could imagine…

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All kinds of food trucks lined the street…

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And street performers were happy to show off their skills… I told Bill I would ask them if I could try this trick…he laughed and said “go ahead, they have an ambulance right on the corner! YIKES!!!

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After a fun-filled weekend with Bill, my Bro, Danny, called me last night. We talked for a long time and he told me he saw mom on Sunday and he was “bummed” about not only her decline, but also about David’s surgery, and Joan etc. Danny said he just feels so sad…. One thing I can say about my Bro, Danny, is that he rarely shares his emotions…. Anyway, he asked me if I would like to go to lunch with him and his wife, Bea today as they both are taking a few vacation days….Well, I never pass up an opportunity to spend some quality time with my Bro… so they picked me up this afternoon and off we went to a really nice little sandwich shop in historical downtown Chandler called Pockets…

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I am embarrassed to say…. I live in Chandler and I spend a lot of time in historical downtown Chandler with my girlfriends, and my husband, but I had no clue that this little gem of a place was there… Danny lives in Maricopa (45 minutes south of me…) and he knows all about where the good eating spots are in Chandler… However, to my own defense, Danny hung out in Chandler A LOT… when he was younger… A LOT!!! 🙂

I had a Santa Fe sandwich. Grilled chicken with fire roasted peppers and tomatoes, bacon, and provolone cheese, served with a side of potato salad and a pickle.. YUM!!! It was a lot to eat so I only ate half of mine and brought the other half home for lunch tomorrow!

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The menu, just above the counter, at Pockets is extensive to say the least.

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They even serve breakfast sandwiches. Bill, and my girlfriends, will love this place soooooooooooo, I WILL be BACK!!!

I want to say thank you to Bill for the lovely weekend we had together. It was just what I needed to end a very trying couple of  weeks…

I also want to say thank you to my Bro, Danny, and his wife Bea, for the invite to lunch…it was the perfect start to the new week ahead…

I am blessed!

Stay Tuned!!!

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4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. gotham girl
    Nov 11, 2014 @ 12:13:19

    So glad to see your post! I was beginning to worry! Wonderful that you had a great long weekend with your love…and also sorry to hear all that’s going on at the Care Center. I so understand how you’re feeling…it broke my heart when visiting dad…love you my sweet! xoxo more!

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  2. gotham girl
    Nov 11, 2014 @ 12:13:48

    P.S. Glad you’re finding more places for us to eat! 🙂

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