Everything Old Is New Again

My mother has been living in a Care Center for six years now. Just prior to moving into the Care Center she bought two  pairs of New Balance shoes that cost $98.00 each. Keep in mind that my mother had stopped walking by this time so her shoes will most likely never wear out… However, as my mother’s memory declined, and she was wearing sandals during the summer on a field trip to Walmart, she forgot that she had the New Balance shoes, and decided she need a new, cheep,  $10.00 pair of shoes from Walmart. I wrote a blog post about that a while back.

A few weeks ago my mother told me that she needed some new jeans. She doesn’t, she has more clothes than she will ever wear for the rest of her life. In fact, she has so many clothes that I keep most of them in a spare closet in my home and bring them to her at the care center, rotating them according to season… But, once my mother makes up her mind that she needs something, she gets very upset with me when I try to reason with her by reminding her of what she already has… This happened again just recently when she started telling me she needed yet another new pair of shoes. She told me her right shoe keeps falling off her foot and she has to find someone to put it back on for her. I told her that the shoe is not the problem, it’s the stretch, corkscrew looking shoe laces she insisted on having because she saw another resident with them and said they would be wonderful because you don’t tie them, they allow you to just slip your shoe on and off your foot. I told my mother that would be great if you didn’t have Parkinson’s, and constantly shake, and wiggle your right leg around causing your shoe to fall off… That didn’t sit well with her and she told me that I just don’t want her to have anything and she was going to call my brother, Danny, and ask him to come and get her and take her shopping for jeans and new shoes… I told her she didn’t need to bother Danny, I would bring her some jeans and look into the shoe situation.

After I left my mother that day, I called Danny to give him a heads-up about mom’s shoe and jeans situation and told him if she does get someone to call him, not to promise her he would come and get her because I already have a plan that I think will make her happy.

Here is what I did:

I went to the store and bought two new pair of shoe laces that tie up. Then, the next time I visited my mother, I slipped into her room while she was in the activity room playing bingo, and took her $98.00 New Balance shoes out of her closet and put new black and white shoe laces in the black pair, and new white shoe laces in the white pair. Then I cleaned both pair up because they had been sitting in the back of her closet so long they had gathered dust. I also brought some jeans that I had in her clothes closet at my house. I switched out some of the jeans/pants she had in her little closet in her room at the care center and hung up the jeans I brought from her closet at my house… I took the jeans I was replacing out to my car so there was no evidence of what I had done… Then, I went and found my mother. She just finished playing bingo and was happy to see me. I told her I had a surprise for her and needed to take her to her room. When we got to her room I showed her the “old” New Balance shoes with the new shoelaces and her eyes lit up like it was Christmas. She immediately wanted to try the black pair on. I put them on her and she said “these are the most comfortable shoes I’ve ever had on my feet, how did you know what kind to get?” I smiled and said “I just took a good guess that you would like these…”


She said “I love them and never want to take them off. ” Then I showed her the white pair and she just couldn’t believe that she now had two pair of new shoes to wear. When I took my mother to the dining room, she had to show everyone her “new” shoes…


After lunch,  I took mom back to her room and showed her the “new” jeans I brought for her to wear. She was thrilled and said “these are perfect, and just what I needed. It’s my shower day today so put those with my shower bag and I will have my aid put them on me right after my shower.”

When it was time for me to leave, and I hugged my mother good-bye, she told me that I am a good daughter and I take good care of her… I guess now that “everything old is new again,”  all is well that ends well… until next time….

Stay Tuned!

2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. gotham girl
    Feb 09, 2015 @ 20:37:32

    love! you are a genius! xoxo


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