Let Justice Be Served

This is an update to my last post on 1/12/17, titled “Outraged” , where I documented the incident of our daughter, Shantel, being attacked in her apartment by some scum of the earth thug that broke into her home, hit her, knocking her to the ground, then tried to strangle her until he was scared off by her neighbors responding to her screams. He fled with her cell phone which he eventually threw away after he realized the phone had been locked and had a tracking system on it.

Shantel called me last night to tell me the detective handling her case called her at work yesterday to let her know they caught this thug, arrested him and put him in jail. The detective said that this thug admitted to everything he did to Shantel. As a result, he has been charged with four felony charges for what he did to Shantel, and he has been charged with parole violation, carrying a concealed weapon, and possession of narcotics.

The detective also told Shantel that they put a restraining order on him for Shantel, and that because he already admitted to everything he did, he will go to trail, but Shantel will not have to appear. She can instead have a victim advocate attend the trial on her behalf if she wants.

Bill and I are very thankful for the swift work of the detective and the police that are working Shantel’s case. It is because of their dedication, and hard work, this thug has been captured and taken off the streets so he can’t hurt anyone else.

I think it is always awful when anyone thinks they can impose their will on another person, but I think it takes a special kind of evil to attack a helpless disabled person. All I can say now is let justice be served on him.

Bill and I went to Shantel’s apartment and Bill reinforced the deadbolt lock on her door. Hopefully she will be safer now in her own home.

I want to thank all those who expressed their concern for Shantel and who have asked how she is doing now. Shantel is a very brave, independent, young woman. She said while she is a little scared over all of this, she continues to move past her fear and carry on with her life.

Of course, as her parents, Bill and I always worry about Shantel. But at the same time, Bill and I raised her to be strong, and independent, because we know we will not always be around. We are so proud of the way Shantel has learned to live on her own, taking her rightful place in this world, and how she never lets fear stop her from living her life on her own to the best of her ability. Stay strong Shantel. Papa and I love you so very much.

Stay Tuned!





As parents of a disabled adult child, Bill and I were confronted with our worst nightmare when our precious daughter, Shantel, called to tell us that last Saturday night, as she laid in her bed listening to a program on her phone, she thought she heard someone trying to get in her bedroom window. She immediately called 911 and reported what she thought was happening. The 911 operator told her they were sending help but did not keep her on the phone as they usually do.

Of course Shantel was scared, so she decided she would take her phone and go lock herself in her bathroom until the police arrived. However, as Shantel was leaving her bedroom and walking across the hall to the bathroom, she heard someone kick her front door in and before she could even get to the bathroom, some thug, said “Shantel its Damien”, and within minutes he had her by the throat and started choking her. She said she couldn’t breathe and thought she was going to die. She started trying to hit him and did everything she could to try to escape his grasp. She fought so hard that the intruder hit her in the face knocking her to the floor. Shantel began screaming so loud that her neighbors upstairs ( a brother and sister that share an apartment together, and who thankfully help her from time to time and check in on her to make sure she is alright) heard her screams and one of them started down the stairs to see what was happening while the other one called her cell phone which caused the intruder to grab her phone from her and run out of her apartment.

As the intruder was fleeing Shantel’s apartment, the brother and sister upstairs, and two other people saw him, and were able to identify him as a person that lived in the apartment complex in the past. They pulled him up on Facebook and showed his Facebook page to the police.

The police took Shantel to the police station and took pictures of her face and throat and Shantel said she was at the police station until 5:00 in the morning. However, Shantel did not call Bill and I until Sunday afternoon to tell us about all of this. I asked her why she didn’t call us Saturday night when she was at the police station and she said “I’m an adult now mom (23), and I didn’t want to worry you and Papa.” OMG, I told her “we are your parents and we want to know when you are in danger, or when something happens to you.”

I asked Shantel how she knew this intruder since he told her his name and she said he did live across the courtyard from her and he would say hi to her if she was walking to or from the laundry room, office, or mail box. She said he never came in her home and she really never had any conversation other than one day he was sitting on his patio and saw her as she passed by and said “hi, my name is Damien.” Then after that if he was out on his patio and she was walking by he would say Hi…

This whole thing of course has traumatized Shantel, and both Bill and I are just heart-sick about all of this.

I asked Shantel if she was scared to live there now and she said “a little, but I know I have to get past that because this is what I can afford, and my neighbors above do help me, and it is close to my best friend Jaz, and even if I moved mom, the same thing could happen…”

Of course as her parents, both Bill and I are OUTRAGED about all of this. It takes a special kind of scum of the earth to hurt a disabled blind person. I have to tell you as her mother, I would love to know who did this to my precious Shantel and if I ever came face to face to him… God forgive me, but I would do what ever I could to make sure that scum of the earth NEVER had an opportunity to do this again to anyone.

I am the mother of a disabled adult child, and I voted, and because of that, I have every right to voice my opinion, and my opinion is if you make fun of a disabled person, bully a disabled person, attack a disabled person, or support anyone that does… YOU are deplorable, and YOU are the scum of the earth, because then YOU helped set the stage for this to happen to my disabled daughter,  and if this post offends you, tough shit!!!

Stay Tuned!




Perfect Imperfection

With the New Year in full swing, I’m hearing a lot of talk of folks making resolutions, and/or setting new life goals to improve their life and/or improve themselves. Some folks want to lose weight, quit smoking, start a hobby or take up a new one. All of these things are good and healthy things to do to improve health and create a better lifestyle… Some folks are in search of discovering a way to make what they already have better or more perfect…

One of the most important life lessons I ever learned, I learned from our daughter, Shantel. Being totally blind, Shantel is not at all into anything being perfect. She is however very much into everything being functional. She always tells me that if she waited for things to be “perfect” in her world, she would never be able to function at all. She said “you just have to accept that not all things are going to be perfect, but they can still be beautiful, have purpose, and be functional”.

One of the reasons I love living in Arizona is because I feel so at home, and find such comfort, and beauty, in the Sonoran  Desert. I am most impressed with the beautiful and mighty saguaro cactus. I am always fascinated with the distinctive differences from one saguaro to the next.

Today, as I was out and about practicing with the camera my frissy loaned me, I decided to focus my photo session on the perfect imperfections of the mighty saguaro cactus. I thought about my daughter, Shantel, as I was capturing each and every one of these perfectly imperfect, but beautiful saguaro cactus. Take a look.

The saguaro in the center of the picture is beautiful and graceful standing tall and proud.


But not all saguaro’s look quite so graceful. This one looks to me like the old lady in the shoe who had so many children she didn’t know what to do…


OMG, this is one of my favorites just outside of the park. To me it looks like someone ridding piggy-back, and I can almost hear it saying “gitty-up, Go!


All I can say for a caption for this one is “stick a fork in me… I’m done”.


So many funny shapes and sizes… I could spend all day looking for more!


Use  your imagination on this one…


When I looked at this one as pictured, I thought it might be saying I surrender,,,


But when I took the picture from this angle, I immediately thought it should be named spirit woman. What do you think?


My caption for the next picture is Twins. What would your caption be?


All I can say is a big Thank-you to our daughter, Shantel, who taught me to see the beauty in imperfections…And, a BIG THANK-YOU to my Frissy for loaning me one of her camera’s, and teaching me to see the beauty in the unexpected, and in imperfections… I hope I did you proud Frissy…

Just like the beauty in nature is not always perfect… See the beautiful imperfections in everyone you meet that make them perfect, and don’t just walk by, and miss the beautiful imperfections in nature, or in the people you meet.

Thank-You Shantel, and Frissy, for showing me how to appreciate the beauty in perfect imperfections..

Stayed Tuned!


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