Looking For Common Sense

Anyone that knows me, or follows my blog, knows my husband, Bill, and I legally adopted our first granddaughter, Shantel. She had both eyes enucleated due to cancer before she was two years old. If anyone reading this doesn’t know what enucleated means. The dictionary says it means ” removal of an organ or other mass intact from its supporting tissue”. In layman terms, it means both of her eyes were taken out. I hate to be that blunt, but as you read this post you will understand why.

I cannot even begin to tell you how many people, from the time Shantel first lost her sight, to this very day, come up and ask what caused Shantel to be blind. When she, or I, explain she had to have both eyes removed due to cancer, and that what they are seeing when they look at her are prosthetic eyes… These folks will actually ask if she can see anything through her prosthetic eyes?I have to say, I think sometimes, the folks Shantel ,and/or Bill, and I come in contact with when we are out together, just don’t grasp what we are telling them about Shantel’s loss of sight. They ask questions before they really think about what they are saying…

But I will never, ever, excuse that kind of questioning from people in agencies, that are supposed to be there to help people in their time of need.

To say the very least, Shantel losing her sight, and all that followed trying to help her become the contributing member of our society she wants to be, was a horrific experience that I would not wish on anyone. But it was a journey both Bill and I were willing to take with Shantel to save her life and because we love her.

Because Shantel is totally blind, she can, and does, receive social security disability insurance from time to time. I say from time to time, because Shantel doesn’t want to depend on any government assistance. No, she wants to make her own way in life.

Shantel went to a Community College, and graduated with two AA degrees. One in psychology, and one in general studies. And, she also has a license to sell life and health insurance in Arizona…

All Shantel wants to do is work. When she graduated college, she made it her job to find a job. She went on endless interviews. I took her to these interviews, so I know first hand what she was told.

Over and over, Shantel was told ” you don’t have enough work experience… Of course not, when she was in High School, like all her High School peers, she applied for jobs in every burger joint etc. around our community, and not one place would hire her stating “we have more qualified applicants”…

Fast forward several years… Shantel is out on her own. Living in a one bedroom apartment. She finally got a job working in a Call Center. She LOVED working there even though they couldn’t support her need to have a screen reader on her workstation. She went through two training sessions, because they were not ready for her to take active calls after she graduated the first class… So, finally, she was assigned to listen in on calls with new employees and help them know what to say to the customer… She worked there for about nine months when the company was sold, and the people in the division Shantel worked in where let go.

So, what now for Shantel? Well, she applied for unemployment benefits, and was told she would have to go to get a note from a doctor that says she is “visually impaired” before she can receive unemployment benefits.  Shantel told the unemployment office she has a doctor’s letter from Social Security stating she had both eyes enucleated before she was two years old.

This is where I’m looking for  “common sense”. .. The unemployment agency actually told Shantel,  “you need to have a letter stating that you are still blind today”. Apparently the unemployment agency does not understand what enucleated means…

So Shantel had to go to yet another Doctor today, just to give her a letter saying… YES, YOU ARE TOTALLY BLIND, and your EYES ARE NEVER GOING TO GROW BACK!!!

OMG, as her parents, and going through all that we have gone through just to get Shantel where she is today, which is where we are so PROUD of her to be… We just can’t believe she still has to deal with this kind of incompetence …

If you know where common sense is… please let me know!

Beyond belief…

 

 

 

 

 

 

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8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Ellen Kaufman
    Jun 24, 2017 @ 00:14:39

    So sorry this is again happening! Feel so bad for Shantel. So unfair she has to deal with such stupid people with no training. My prayers for you and Shantel. God will help her through this and find a job and continue her life journey. 💜💫✝️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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  2. gotham girl
    Jun 24, 2017 @ 01:05:07

    This just sends me over the edge.

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  3. Bill
    Jun 24, 2017 @ 01:17:56

    I believe that the government agencies need to work on their hiring practices, how about a common sense test, instead just making sure they can walk and breathe. So frustrating! !!
    Bill

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  4. Karen
    Jun 24, 2017 @ 19:49:48

    You certainly don’t have to look far to understand that ignorance is rampant. So sorry this is happening to Shantel. I feel certain this is why God gave her such a wonderful sense of humor. You and Bill, too. My dad used to say “never get into a pissing contest with a skunk.” Other versions of that saying include “water rises to its own level.” So, always stay above – far above – the ignorance! I know you do. XXOO

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    • beyondcinderella
      Jun 24, 2017 @ 22:06:52

      Thanks Karen. I also believe God gave Shantel a wonderful sense of humor for handling these types of things. Sometimes the only thing you can do is laugh. And believe me, over the years, once we got over the shock and awe, we have had many, many, good laughs about things like this. Your dad was a VERY wise man indeed. XoXo

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